Wednesday, October 24, 2012

BB Fashion Week

Fierce- Fabulous- Furious

(BB Fashion Week) takes another gigantic step towards developing the fashion brands of Barbados and the Caribbean as we place our fashion industry on the world’s stage. This superb and spectacular initiative continues to be of interest to our international, regional and local partners which include Fashion TV (London), Ebony magazine (NY), FOLITIQUE Magazine (London), N
ouvelle Vitrine De La Mode (France), SHE Caribbean, The Barbados Tourism Authority, and various government agencies, non-governmental organisations and industry practitioners who believe that this is the best way forward for Caribbean fashion. BB Fashion Week 2012 is slated for October 25th – 28th and is presented and produced by Unique Productions Worldwide Ltd.
Event will be hosted at the Warehouse at Kensington Oval next door to H Jason Jones.

Thursday-October 25th
The Fashion Gala – opening- Kensington Oval Warehouse

Friday-October 26th-Kensington Oval Warehouse

Runway 1

Glam Night- Opening Show.

Saturday-October 27th

Fashion is our Passion workshops- The Courtyard Marriott


Saturday-October 27th-Kensington Oval Warehouse

Caribbean Fiesta – Regional Designer Showcase.

Sunday-October 28th-Kensington Oval Warehouse

International Couture and Finale

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Are All Single Black Gay Men Bitter?

Are All Single Black Gay Men Bitter?

There are a few words that are routinely thrown around when describing characters in the black gay dating scene. Single, bitter and jaded are a few of them. Unfortunately, these characteristics are easier to find than an Atlanta party promoter.
As a mid-20-something year-old black gay man trying to date while maneuvering through social networking sites like Jack’d, drunken nights at the bar leading to early mornings and missed connections at the gas station, I still believe that love is a beautiful thing and we can learn a lot by allowing that special someone into our lives. Being back on the dating scene, I have met so many guys who have a hard time admitting deep down inside what they’re looking for in a relationship. These guys use the phrase “just looking for friends” as a mechanism to deflect that they are looking for more than just friends, but are afraid to take that dive into commitment. It pisses me off to hear so many of us giving up on love at such a young age. Quite frankly, it’s a total turn off when I meet someone with that philosophy. Putting negative energy out there definitely does not encourage me to get to know you more.
Don’t get me wrong: I still don’t believe that marriage is for everyone (gay, straight or bi). However, I don’t think that anyone who does not want to be in committed relationship can do so. Monogamy for two men can be a gamble if both men aren’t totally committed to it. But it does seem like there is a trendy disdain about romance in our community that seems buried in pungent scars from being burned in the past by trifling negroes.
Too often we get consumed by mantras like “all men are dogs” or “gays cannot be faithful.” The lack of real examples of what a successful gay relationship looks like contributes to this paradigm. Even after taking a quick evaluation of my friends and their relationships, I wouldn’t define many of their situations as  ideal or something I long for; however, it’s not my relationship to be in or to judge.
History alludes to a very telling story of black men having difficulty learning how to love and cope in society. Since our journey across the Middle Passage, these effects on the black family have led to the blurred absence of good black men. The outcomes have led to more black men in prison, lower high school graduation rates and even emotional inconsistencies. During the time when slave masters began breeding curly-haired mixed babies or when Papa was a rolling stone, examples of a good black man quickly became a fairy tale.  Imagine two guys from this lineage trying to make things work. Shit gets difficult; but if relationships were that easy, we all would be in one and there would be no need for this post. You’re not going to get it right on the first, second or third try.
We all carry baggage from past and current relationships. We all come with tons of anecdotes full of heartbreak and pain. Telling yourself that you’re not going to put it all out there or you’ve given up on love is not fooling anyone but yourself. If you don’t want a relationship, why go through the motions of connecting with someone? Although stating your intentions are only to have sex can carry negative connotations within itself, if you’re looking for more and not honest with yourself – or him – that’s all you deserve.
Most of us fall victim to not looking for what we want but what to the other person wants. If he says he’s looking for a fuck buddy, we have no problem becoming that while denying ourselves of so much more. We forgo and hide our desires because we don’t put our own interests first. Taking a backseat to your heart will only keep you riding around aimlessly in the passenger seat while someone is doing all the driving for us – and the gas is too damn high.
If you like someone, there is no reason in running. I know that trying to create a good balance to show you’re interested is hard because you don’t want to turn the person off; however, starting with ideas of failed relationships and anti-love doesn’t make it easier. Don’t bamboozle yourself into thinking that it is going to draw someone closer to you because it will not. A man wants to know you are interested and engaged, not trying to overcome barriers of mending your broken heart. Too much disconnection will only motivate him to connect with someone else – no pun intended.
So you want to live the life of being a single, bitter black gay man? Be cautious because you will block someone from loving you.
Though desperation is never a good look on anyone, I never understood why so many gays have negative feelings towards those who are still in search of the perfect mate. At the end of the day, we all deserve someone to love. I know I feel great when I am wanted and have someone in my corner. More than that, it feels amazing knowing where my next piece of guaranteed ass is coming from.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012


SAN JUAN, Puerto Rico — Orlando Cruz, a featherweight boxer in the sport globally by the World Boxing Organization (WBO) and former Olympian, stunned the world of professional boxing, Oct. 3 after announcing that he “is a proud gay man.”

In an open letter published Wednesday, the boxing champion wrote:

“I’ve been fighting for more that 24 years and as I continue my ascendant career, I want to be true to myself. I want to try to be the best role model I can be for kids who might look into boxing as a sport and a professional career.

“I have always been and will always be a proud Puerto Rican. I have always been and will always be a proud gay man. I don’t want to hide any of my identities. I want people to look at me for the human being that I am. I am a professional sportsman that always bring his best to the ring. I want for people to continue to see me for my boxing skills, my character, my sportsmanship.

“But I also want kids who suffer from bullying, to know that you can be whoever you want to be in life, including a professional boxer. That anything is possible and that who you are or whom you love should not be impediment to achieving anything in life.

His next fight is scheduled for October 19 at the Kissimmee Civic Center in Kissimmee, Florida in which he will defend his WBO NABO title against Jorge Pazos. A win against Pazos should position Cruz for a world title shot.

Cruz is sitting down with Telemundo’s Jessi Losada in an exclusive tell-all interview later this week that is scheduled to air the week of October 15.

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

In Loving Memory Of Sahara Davenport (Antoine Ashley)

Drag diva & Rupaul Drag Race contestant Sahara Davenport has passed away at the tender age of 27!

Please pray for the family and his partner  Karl Westerberg (Manila Luzon)!

I will be  keeping you guys updated on the news..

Brief obituary after the jump! 

Sahara Davenport (born Antoine Ashley on December 17, 1984)  is an American drag queen and reality television personality and classically-trained dancer. He is best known as a contestant on the second season of RuPaul's Drag Race.

A native of Dallas, Davenport began his drag career while attending Southern Methodist University. After earning a Bachelor of Fine Arts in dance, he relocated to New York City, where he began performing regularly at many gay bars and nightclubs throughout the city.
Davenport has been seen on television on A&E Network's 15 Films about Madonna, Voom HD's Magnificent Obsessions, and on ABC's daytime soap opera One Life to Live. He was featured in the pilot of Judge Karen as an angry Beyoncé impersonator who sues the paparazzi. Davenport made his art film debut in Kalup Linzy's video-performance piece "Melody Set Me Free," which was shown at the Whitney Museum of American Art. He also appeared in the music videos "Girl Problems" by the group Girl Problems and "Gettin Over" by David Guetta and Chris Willis.

Davenport joined the cast of the second season of RuPaul's Drag Race in 2010. He was pegged as "The Dancer" when in the first episode he had to "lipsynch for your life" against his former college classmate, Shangela Laquifa Wadley. In the second episode, Davenport became a team leader when he and Pandora Boxx won the mini challenge. Sahara won the second episode elimination challenge by leading his team to earn the most money by pole dancing and selling cherry pie gift certificates on the streets of Los Angeles. In the fourth episode, Davenport gave a humorous impersonation of Whitney Houston in the Snatch Game challenge. In the Wedding Dress episode, he was in the bottom two again, but remained safe because of his lipsynch performance to Martha Wash's "Carry On". Sahara was eliminated in the sixth episode for not conveying enough of a "rock 'n roll" attitude and being too much of a lady.

In 2011, Davenport released his second single "Go Off." A remix EP was later released on January 31, 2012, and featured a remix by Manny Lehman. "Go Off" debuted at at number fifty on the Billboard Hot Dance Club Songs, before peaking at number thirty five. The music video for "Go Off" features cameos by Drag Race contestants Manila Luzon and Jiggly Caliente.

Davenport currently resides in New York. Davenport's boyfriend Karl Westerberg (Manila Luzon) was a contestant on the third season of Rupaul's Drag Race, where he was runner-up in that season's competition.


I am so SO sad right now. I am never good with death but I must say Sahara had a special place in my big gay heart!  I am hurt but I know God know best! Please keep his family and friends in your prayers!